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    “When we remember that the people we stumble

    into on a day-to-day basis are all

    just works-in-progress, it gives us permission to have

    greater patience, compassion and love towards

    them. Not unlike ourselves, they’re trying to pilot

    the plane while they build it. They’re learning as they

    go. Failing more often than succeeding.

    And, at times, finding themselves desperately

    close to giving up. If we have one single

    responsibility as humans, it’s to love (or at the

    very least respect) one another through this

    work-in-progress. It’s being empathetic

    to the fact that nobody is exactly who they want to be,

    nor where they want to be, but they’re working

    like hell to get there.”

    Cole Schafer (January Black), One Minute, Please? (Page 21)

      “Most of what we see today in this virtual world we play in is not self-love but self-obsession. Men and women throw a mask on it and call it self-love, but it’s not. When you love yourself, that light shines through, it beams out of you penetrating into the hearts and minds of others, inspiring them to love themselves too. When you’re obsessed with yourself, you produce no light, only darkness. Self-obsessed people want the world darker so they can burn brighter. To put it in less abstract terms, when someone stumbles into you (be it in the physical or virtual world) will they leave feeling fuller, stronger, lovelier? Or, will they leave feeling less? That is the fundamental difference between self-love and self-obsession. Those who love themselves show others how to love themselves too.”

      Cole Schafer (January Black), One Minute, Please? (Page 5)

        “We tend to be most rigid in our identities in areas that we’ve been hurt the most. People who grow up in poverty tend to have the most inflexible views on money and wealth. People who grow up unattractive tend to have the most rigid views about appearance. These rigid views about ourselves and the world helped us survive at one point, but when held onto for too long, they eventually hold us back.”

        Mark Manson

          “In what areas of your life are you rigid about your identity? Chances are, these are the same areas in your life that generate the most stress and conflict.”

          Mark Manson

            “I have learned that Grief is a force of energy that cannot be controlled or predicted. It comes and goes on its own schedule. Grief does not obey your plans, or your wishes. Grief will do whatever it wants to you, whenever it wants to. In that regard, Grief has a lot in common with Love. The only way that I can “handle” Grief, then, is the same way that I “handle” Love — by not “handling” it. By bowing down before its power, in complete humility.”

            Elizabeth Gilbert 

              “Every time you find yourself irritated or angry with someone, the one to look at is not that person but yourself. The question to ask is not, ‘What’s wrong with this person?’ but ‘What does this irritation tell me about myself?’”

              Anthony de Mello

                “I grow little of the food I eat, and of the little I do grow I did not breed or perfect the seeds. I do not make any of my own clothing. I speak a language I did not invent or refine. I did not discover the mathematics I use. I am protected by freedoms and laws I did not conceive of or legislate, and do not enforce or adjudicate. I am moved by music I did not create myself. When I needed medical attention, I was helpless to help myself survive. I did not invent the transistor, the microprocessor, object oriented programming, or most of the technology I work with. I love and admire my species, living and dead, and am totally dependent on them for my life and well being.”

                Steve Jobs

                  “Buying your kids the best will never replace giving your kids your best.”

                  James Clear