“Trust, but verify.”
Russian Proverb, via The Daily Stoic (Page 107)
“You must begin to trust yourself sometime. I suggest you do it now. If you do not then you will forever be looking to others to prove your own merit to you, and you will never be satisfied. You will always be asking others what to do, and at the same time resenting those from whom you seek such aid. It will seem to you that their experience is legitimate and yours counterfeit. You will feel shortchanged. You will find yourself exaggerating the negative aspects of your life, and the positive sides of other people’s experiences. You are a multidimensional personality. Trust the miracle of your own being. Make no divisions between the physical and the spiritual in your lifetime, for the spiritual speaks with a physical voice and the corporeal body is the creation of the spirit.”
Jane Roberts, The Nature Of Personal Reality, via Sunbeams (Page 48)
Should Trust Be Earned Not Given, or Given Not Earned?
Excerpt: Unpopular opinion: I believe that trust should be given, not earned. Most people model their relationships off of the inverse. Read on and weigh in.
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Why I DON’T Do “Pinky Promises”
“We started our relationship based on pinky promises, where we linked our pinkies and kissed our hands to demonstrate that we cannot lie and break that bond. Because like little kids a pinky promise means a lot more.”
Unknown
Beyond the Quote (263/365)
I saw a meme that asked, “Do you trust pinky promises?” with the response, “You are wack if you don’t take these seriously.”
Unpopular opinion: You are wack if you need a promise to be “pinkyed” to be taken seriously.
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“If you made a list of people that you trusted/
Would you put your name down?”
NF, Only
Beyond the Quote (187/365)
When I heard this line in NF’s song it stayed with me. It brilliantly orients an issue that so many of us confront on a regular basis—trust. Trust is the foundation of every relationship in our lives. Without trust there cannot be a stable relationship. Just like without a proper foundation there cannot be a stable building. Why is trust so important? Because trust is the key that unlocks and opens a person’s vulnerable side. And until a person is vulnerable and open to another—no true relationship can form.
Read More »NF Quote from “Only” on Trust“Trust is not blindly given. It must be built over time. Situations will sometimes require that the boss walk away from a problem and let junior leaders solve it, even if the boss knows he might solve it more efficiently. It is more important that the junior leaders are allowed to make decisions—and backed up even if they don’t make them correctly. Open conversations build trust. Overcoming stress and challenging environments builds trust. Working through emergencies and seeing how people react builds trust.” ~ Jocko Willink, Extreme Ownership (Page 191)
“Stated succinctly, partial trust sucks. When we know we have been trusted only partially, we naturally wonder, ‘Why didn’t he trust me more?’ This natural question reduces our motivation to reciprocate and leads to less long-term commitment to a leader, to a team, and to an organization. Partial trust sucks in many ways: it is the reverse of flattery and respect and it stimulates lousy outcomes, for everyone.”
J. Keith Murnighan, Do Nothing!
“Secrecy is the enemy of trust and is responsible for much of the distrust that exists between business and society, corporations and customers, management and employees.” ~ Keshavan Nair, A Higher Standard of Leadership
“Would anybody be offended if we gave a $150 million bonus to Gandhi? How about a $250 million bonus to Mother Teresa? Do we have an issue with that? None at all. Great leaders would never sacrifice the people to save the numbers. They would sooner sacrifice the numbers to save the people.” ~ Simon Sinek, TED
10 Quotes from The Speed of Trust That All Leaders Should Read
Excerpt: Trust is the one thing that changes everything. Not sure if you agree? Check out these 10 quotes from The Speed of Trust to find out how…
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“I know it is possible not only to restore trust but to actually enhance it. The difficult things that we go through with the important people in our lives can become fertile ground for the growth of enduring trust – trust that is actually stronger because it’s been tested and proved through challenge.” ~ Stephen M. R. Covey, The Speed of Trust
“By behaving in ways that build trust with one, you build trust with many.” ~ Stephen M. R. Covey, The Speed of Trust