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The Mastery of Love [Book]

    Book Overview: In The Mastery of Love, Don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships.  Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships.

    Post(s) Inspired by this Book:

      “There are millions of ways to express your happiness, but there is only one way to really be happy, and that is to love.  There is no other way.  You cannot be happy if you don’t love yourself.  That is a fact.  If you don’t love yourself, you don’t have any opportunity to be happy.  You cannot share what you do not have.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

        “You must forgive those who hurt you, even if whatever they did to you is unforgivable in your mind.  You will forgive them not because they deserve to be forgiven, but because you don’t want to suffer and hurt yourself every time you remember what they did to you.  It doesn’t matter what others did to you, you are going to forgive them because you don’t want to feel sick all the time.  Forgiveness is for your own mental healing.  You will forgive because you feel compassion for yourself.  Forgiveness is an act of self-love.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

          “You are what you believe you are.  There is nothing to do except to be just what you are.  You have the right to feel beautiful and enjoy it.  You can honor your body and accept it as it is.  You don’t need anyone to love you.  Love comes from the inside.  It lives inside us and is always there, but with that wall of fog, we don’t feel it.  You can only perceive the beauty that lives outside you when you feel the beauty that lives inside you.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

            “To master a relationship is all about you.  The first step is to become aware, to know that everyone dreams his own dream.  Once you know this, you can be responsible for your half of the relationship, which is you.  If you know that you are only responsible for half of the relationship, you can easily control your half.  It is not up to us to control the other half.  If we respect, we know that our partner, or friend, or son, or mother, is completely responsible for his or her own half.  If we respect the other half, there is always going to be peace in that relationship.  There is no war.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

              “To be fully human we need to cultivate a relationship not only with other people but also with our deeper selves and with Spirit.  Solitude can be a powerful context and catalyst for this process.” ~ Robert Kull, Solitude

                “In many cultures, solitude is recognized as an opportunity to journey inward; in our culture, spending time alone is often considered unhealthy because we tend to believe that meaning in life is found only through relationship with other people.  But to be fully human, we need relationship not only with other people but with the nonhuman world, with our own inner depths – and with Something Greater.  For me, that nonmaterial Presence is mysterious and sacred.  It can be experienced, but not defined.  And I’ve learned that in coming into a deeper relationship with my self, I develop the capacity to connect more deeply with others.” ~ Robert Kull, Solitude

                  “When someone says words that may not feel good in your body, seem sarcastic in tone, and are meant to judge versus uplift you, this only offers you greater opportunities to raise the vibration of your response. By responding to anyone’s criticism with love, compassion and acceptance, you are stepping forward as a master of relationships to create your own experiences, which has nothing to do with how anyone treats you.” ~ Matt Kahn

                    “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” ~ Jack Kornfield