“To treat yourself as if you were someone you are responsible for helping is what would be truly good for you. This is not ‘what you want.’ It is also not ‘what would make you happy.’ Every time you give a child something sweet, you make that child happy. That does not mean that you should do nothing for children except feed them candy. ‘Happy’ is by no means synonymous with ‘good.’ You must get children to brush their teeth. They must put on their snowsuits when they go outside in the cold, even though they might object strenuously. You must help a child become a virtuous, responsible, awake being, capable of full reciprocity—able to take care of himself and others, and to thrive while doing so. Why would you think it acceptable to do anything less for yourself?” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page 62)
Quotes from 12 Rules for Life
“Every person is deeply flawed. Everyone falls short of the glory of God. If that stark fact meant, however, that we had no responsibility to care, for ourselves as much as others, everyone would be brutally punished all the time. That would not be good. That would make the shortcomings of the world, which can make everyone who thinks honestly question the very propriety of the world, worse in every way. That simply cannot be the proper path forward.” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page 62)
“We deserve some respect. You deserve some respect. You are important to other people, as much as to yourself. You have some vital role to play in the unfolding destiny of the world. You are, therefore, morally obliged to take care of yourself. You should take care of, help and be good to yourself the same way you would take care of, help and be good to someone you loved and valued. You may therefore have to conduct yourself habitually in a manner that allows you some respect for your own Being—and fair enough.” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page 62)
“Even if it were possible to permanently banish everything threatening—everything dangerous (and, therefore, everything challenging and interesting)—that would mean only that another danger would emerge: that of permanent human infantilism and absolute uselessness. How could the nature of man ever reach its full potential without challenge and danger? How dull and contemptible would we become if there was no longer reason to pay attention?” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page 47)
“Order is not enough. You can’t just be stable, and secure, and unchanging, because there are still vital and important new things to be learned. Nonetheless, chaos can be too much. You can’t long tolerate being swamped and overwhelmed beyond your capacity to cope while you are learning what you still need to know. Thus, you need to place one foot in what you have mastered and understood and the other in what you are currently exploring and mastering. Then you have positioned yourself where the terror of existence is under control and you are secure, but where you are also alert and engaged. That is where there is something new to master and some way that you can be improved. That is where meaning is to be found.” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page 44)
“Attend carefully to your posture. Quit drooping and hunching around. Speak your mind. Put your desires forward, as if you had a right to them—at least the same right as others. Walk tall and gaze forthrightly ahead. Dare to be dangerous. Encourage the serotonin to flow plentifully through the neural pathways desperate for its calming influence.” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page 28)
“To stand up straight with your shoulders back is to accept the terrible responsibility of life, with eyes wide open. It means deciding to voluntarily transform the chaos of potential into the realities of habitable order. It means adopting the burden of self-conscious vulnerability, and accepting the end of the unconscious paradise of childhood, where finitude and mortality are only dimly comprehended. It means willingly undertaking the sacrifices necessary to generate a productive and meaningful reality.” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page 27)
“If your posture is poor, for example—if you slump, shoulders forward and rounded, chest tucked in, head down, looking small, defeated and ineffectual (protected, in theory, against attack from behind)—then you will feel small, defeated and ineffectual. The reactions of others will amplify that. If you present yourself as defeated, then people will react to you as if you are losing. If you start to straighten up, then people will look at and treat you differently.” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page 26)
“Dreams shed light on the dim places where reason itself has yet to voyage.” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page xxxii)
“It is because we are born human that we are guaranteed a good dose of suffering. And chances are, if you or someone you love is not suffering now, they will be within five years, unless you are freakishly lucky. Rearing kids is hard, work is hard, aging, sickness and death are hard, and Jordan emphasized that doing all that totally on your own, without the benefit of a loving relationship, or wisdom, or the psychological insights of the greatest psychologists, only makes it harder.” ~ Norman Doidge, via 12 Rules for Life (Page xvii)
“The best rules do not ultimately restrict us but instead facilitate our goals and make for fuller, freer lives.” ~ Norman Doidge, via 12 Rules for Life (Page viii)
“Without rules we quickly become slaves to our passions—and there’s nothing freeing about that.” ~ Norman Doidge, via 12 Rules for Life (Page viii)
12 Rules for Life [Book]
Book Overview: What does everyone in the modern world need to know? Renowned psychologist Jordan B. Peterson’s answer to this most difficult of questions uniquely combines the hard-won truths of ancient tradition with the stunning revelations of cutting-edge scientific research. Humorous, surprising and informative, Dr. Peterson tells us why skateboarding boys and girls must be left alone, what terrible fate awaits those who criticize too easily, and why you should always pet a cat when you meet one on the street. Dr. Peterson journeys broadly, discussing discipline, freedom, adventure and responsibility, distilling the world’s wisdom into 12 practical and profound rules for life. 12 Rules for Life shatters the modern commonplaces of science, faith and human nature, while transforming and ennobling the mind and spirit of its readers.
Buy from Amazon! Listen on Audible!
Not enough time to read/listen to the whole book? Check out the 21 minute Blinkist version of 12 Rules of Life and get the key insights here for free.
Post(s) Inspired by this Book:
- 48 Deep and Insightful Jordan Peterson Quotes from 12 Rules for Life
- 9 Rules for Children from 12 Rules For Life by Jordan Peterson
- Jordan Peterson Quote on Life Priorities and How “Triviality” Can Be Deceptive (Beyond the Quote 207/365)
- Jordan Peterson Quote on Self-Discovery and Why You Should Come Out From Hiding To Find Yourself (Beyond the Quote 155/365)
- Jordan Peterson Quote on The Power of Vision and Direction for Personal Development (Beyond the Quote 141/365)
- Jordan Peterson Quote on Disciplining Children (Beyond the Quote 51/365)
- Jordan Peterson Quote on Winning—About Letting Growth Taking Precedence Over Victory (Beyond the Quote 15/365)
- Jordan Peterson Quote on Judging Ourselves Based On Our Actions—Not Our Beliefs (Beyond the Quote 10/365)
- Picking A Direction Beats Random Wandering (Beyond the Quote 1/365)