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    “For me the joy of athletics has never resided in winning.  I derive just as much happiness from the process as from the results.  I don’t mind losing as long as I see improvement or I feel I’ve done as well as I possibly could.  If I lose, I just go back to the track and work some more.” ~ Jackie Joyner-Kersee

      “Often called the best woman soccer player in the world, Mia Hamm says she was always asked, ‘Mia, what is the most important thing for a soccer player to have?’  With no hesitation, she answered, ‘Mental toughness.’  And she didn’t mean some innate trait.  When eleven players want to knock you down, when you’re tired or injured, when the referees are against you, you can’t let any of it affect your focus.  How do you do that?  You have to learn how.  ‘It is,’ said Hamm, ‘one of the most difficult aspects of soccer and the one I struggle with every game and every practice.” ~ Carol Dweck, Mindset

        “Most often people believe that the ‘gift’ is the ability itself.  Yet what feeds it is that constant, endless curiosity and challenge seeking.” ~ Carol Dweck, Mindset

          “When you enter a mindset, you enter a new world.  In one world – the world of fixed traits – success is about proving you’re smart or talented.  Validating yourself.  In the other – the world of changing qualities – it’s about stretching yourself to learn something new.  Developing yourself.  In one world, failure is about having a setback.  Getting a bad grade.  Losing a tournament.  Getting fired.  Getting rejected.  It means you’re not smart or talented.  In the other world, failure is about not rowing.  Not reaching for the things you value.  It means you’re not fulfilling your potential.  In one world, effort is a bad thing.  It, like failure, means you’re not smart or talented.  If you were, you wouldn’t need effort.  In the other world, effort is what makes you smart or talented.  You have a choice.  Mindsets are just beliefs.  They’re powerful beliefs, but they’re just something in your mind, and you can change your mind.” ~ Carol Dweck, Mindset

            “The attempt to avoid legitimate suffering lies at the root of all emotional illness.” ~ Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled

            Get Off Your “But” [Book]

              Get Off Your "But" by Sean Stephenson

              By: Sean Stephenson

              From this Book:  8 Quotes

              Book Overview:  In addition to presenting Sean Stephenson’s unbelievable life story, Get Off Your “But,” offers anyone who needs to conquer fears and insecurities a hands-on guide for overcoming the forces of negativity and self-sabatoge.  Sean – a successful psychotherapist – shows what it takes to overcome the big bumps in the road, eliminate excuses, end insecurities, and ultimately stand up for happiness and success in life.

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              1. Excerpt from Get Off Your “But” — Living at Cause vs. Living at Effect
              2. Are You Paying Attention To What You’re Saying To Yourself? You Should. [Excerpt]

                “Fairness is an illusion.  Fairness never existed and never will.  No one in life gets less or more than anyone else.  We just get different stuff.  That’s right.  No one is dealt a bad or a good hand in life; we’re just dealt cards.  It’s up to us to stay in the game and play.  Sure, some cards look ‘better,’ but they’re really not.  If you look closely, you’ll see that anything you feel has been taken from you – or never given to you at all – was replaced with other amazing opportunities and gifts.  It’s up to you to find them.” ~ Sean Stephenson, Get Off Your “But”

                  “In my years of traveling the world, I’ve heard hundreds of tear-filled stories.  I’ve hugged complete strangers as they’ve sobbed in my arms.  I always whisper the same thing to them: ‘Look for the gift in your pain.’  If you look for that gift, believe me, you will find it.  If you don’t look, it’s all too easy to become enslaved by your misery.” ~ Sean Stephenson, Get Off Your “But”