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    “Maybe I should at least wait, to help you, until it’s clear that you want to be helped.  Carl Rogers, the famous humanistic psychologist, believed it was impossible to start a therapeutic relationship if the person seeking help did not want to improve.  Rogers believed it was impossible to convince someone to change for the better.  The desire to improve was, instead, the precondition for progress.  I’ve had court-mandated psychotherapy clients.  They did not want my help.  They were forced to seek it.  It did not work.  It was a travesty.” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page 81)

      “Before you help someone, you should find out why that person is in trouble.  You shouldn’t merely assume that he or she is a noble victim of unjust circumstances and exploitation.  It’s the most unlikely explanation, not the most probable.  In my experience—clinical and otherwise—it’s just never been that simple.  Besides, if you buy the story that everything terrible just happened on its own, with no personal responsibility on the part of the victim, you deny that person all agency in the past (and, by implication, in the present and future, as well).  In this manner, you strip him or her of all power.” ~ Jordan Peterson, via 12 Rules for Life (Page 80)

        “Life is really about creating meaning.  And meaning does not come from what you get, it comes from what you give.  Ultimately, what you get will never make you happy long term.  But who you become and what you contribute will.” ~ Tony Robbins, Money: Master the Game

          “When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: The people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous, and surly. They are like this because they can’t tell good from evil. But I have seen the beauty of good and the ugliness of evil, and have recognized that the wrongdoer has a nature related to my own – not of the same blood or birth, but the same mind, and possessing a share of the divine. And so none of them can hurt me. No one can implicate me in ugliness. Nor can I feel angry at my relative, or hate him. We were born to work together like feet, hands, and eyes, like the two rows of teeth, upper and lower. To obstruct each other is unnatural. To feel anger at someone, to turn your back on him: these are obstructions.” ~ Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

            “The only way to be comfortable with death is to understand and see yourself as something bigger than yourself; to choose values that stretch beyond serving yourself, that are simple and immediate and controllable and tolerant of the chaotic world around you.  This is the basic root of all happiness.  Whether you’re listening to Aristotle or the psychologists at Harvard or Jesus Christ or the goddamn Beatles, they all say that happiness comes from the same thing: caring about something greater than yourself, believing that you are a contributing component in some much larger entity, that your life is but a mere side process of some great unintelligible production.” ~ Mark Mason, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck