12 Empowering Don Miguel Ruiz Quotes from The Mastery of Love

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Excerpt: Want to master the art of love? Start here. These 12 quotes from The Mastery of Love are elegant, insightful, and ready for pondering.

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Introduction: How To Create the Perfect Relationships—Starting With The One You Have With Yourself

Below, you will find our list of Don Miguel Ruiz quotes from The Mastery of Love that elaborate on the importance of self-love, taking control over the love in your life (and not depending on it from someone else), and mastering relationships.

Ruiz reiterates the point over and over again that love always manifests itself from within and radiates outwards from you to all others in your life—and how manifesting your love (and not anybody else’s) is your main responsibility in any relationship. He talks about how if you want to create the “perfect relationship,” then you should start by building that perfect relationship with yourself first. Because how can you be in a perfect relationship if your half of it isn’t fulfilled?

All we can ever contribute, is our full, half. No one can contribute more than half. In order to fulfill the relationship, the other person needs to contribute their own full, half, too. Otherwise, it isn’t a relationship—it is simply an abuse of another person’s time, energy, and effort.

Becoming a person who is independently full of love, who can contribute fully to a loving relationship, is all well within your capability as you are the master of your life. And if you want to master love and have the “perfect relationship,” then this is the only way. And Ruiz lays out a very thought provoking case that will help you get there.

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The List: 12 Empowering Don Miguel Ruiz Quotes from The Mastery of Love

“You have the power to create.  Your power is so strong that whatever you believe comes true.  You create yourself, whatever you believe you are.  You are the way you are because that is what you believe about yourself.  Your whole reality, everything you believe, is your creation.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“You are what you believe you are.  There is nothing to do except to be just what you are.  You have the right to feel beautiful and enjoy it.  You can honor your body and accept it as it is.  You don’t need anyone to love you.  Love comes from the inside.  It lives inside us and is always there, but with that wall of fog, we don’t feel it.  You can only perceive the beauty that lives outside you when you feel the beauty that lives inside you.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“Perhaps you have never thought about it, but on one level or another, all of us are masters.  We are masters because we have the power to create and to rule our own lives.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“To master a relationship is all about you.  The first step is to become aware, to know that everyone dreams his own dream.  Once you know this, you can be responsible for your half of the relationship, which is you.  If you know that you are only responsible for half of the relationship, you can easily control your half.  It is not up to us to control the other half.  If we respect, we know that our partner, or friend, or son, or mother, is completely responsible for his or her own half.  If we respect the other half, there is always going to be peace in that relationship.  There is no war.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“There are millions of ways to express your happiness, but there is only one way to really be happy, and that is to love.  There is no other way.  You cannot be happy if you don’t love yourself.  That is a fact.  If you don’t love yourself, you don’t have any opportunity to be happy.  You cannot share what you do not have.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“Selfishness, control, and fear will break almost any relationship.  Generosity, freedom, and love will create the most beautiful relationship: an ongoing romance.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“When you make it your goal to create the perfect relationship between you and your body, you are learning to have a perfect relationship with anyone you are with, including your mother, your friends, your lover, your children, your dog.  When you have the perfect relationship between you and your body, in that moment your half of any relationship outside you is completely fulfilled.  You no longer depend upon the success of a relationship from the outside.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“The happiest moments in our lives are when we are playing just like children, when we are singing and dancing, when we are exploring and creating just for fun.  It is wonderful when we behave like a child because this is the normal human mind, the normal human tendency.  As children, we are innocent and it is natural for us to express love.  But what has happened to us?  What has happened to the whole world?”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“Explore the possibilities.  Be yourself.  Find a person who matches with you.  Take the risk, but be honest.  If it works, keep going.  If it doesn’t work, then do yourself and your partner a favor: Walk away; let her go.  Don’t be selfish.  Give your partner the opportunity to find what she really wants, and at the same time give yourself the opportunity.  If it’s not going to work, it is better to look in a different direction.  If you cannot love your partner the way she is, someone else can love her just as she is.  Don’t wast your time, and don’t waste your partner’s time.  That is respect.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“You must forgive those who hurt you, even if whatever they did to you is unforgivable in your mind.  You will forgive them not because they deserve to be forgiven, but because you don’t want to suffer and hurt yourself every time you remember what they did to you.  It doesn’t matter what others did to you, you are going to forgive them because you don’t want to feel sick all the time.  Forgiveness is for your own mental healing.  You will forgive because you feel compassion for yourself.  Forgiveness is an act of self-love.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“You don’t have to believe me, but think, and make choices.  Believe what you want to believe according to what I say, but only if it makes sense for you, if it makes you happy.  If it guides you into your awakening, then make the choice to believe it.  I am responsible for what I say, but I am not responsible for what you understand.  We live in a completely different dream.  What I say, even if it is absolutely true for me, is not necessarily true for you.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“It’s not true that you go to hell or to heaven after you die.  You live in hell or you live in heaven, but now.  Heaven and hell only exist in the level of the mind.”

Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love (Read Matt’s Blog on this quote)

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If you enjoyed these quotes from The Mastery of Love then you’ll definitely want to read Don Miguel Ruiz’s Book in full. It comes highly recommended: