Feeling Lost? Phil Stutz Says Don’t Try To Figure It Out. Here’s Why…

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Excerpt: “If you’re lost, don’t try to figure it out—activate your life force instead.” What’s life force? Let Stutz—Jonah Hill’s therapist—explain…

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Enter Phil Stutz:

The only way to find out what you should be doing, like who you are, is to activate your life force.

Your life force is the only part of you that actually is capable of guiding you when you’re lost.

If you think of it as a pyramid, there’s three levels of the life force: the bottom level is your relationship with your physical body; the second layer is your relationship with other people; and the highest level is your relationship with yourself.

The bottom step is your relationship to your physical body. All you gotta do is get your body working better, and it always works. The most classic thing is they’re not exercising. Diet is another one—and sleeping.

The next one is your relationship to other people, ’cause when people get depressed, it’s not that they end their relationships. It’s like a ship disappearing over the horizon. They start to get pulled back, away from their life, and relationships are like—you know those things when you’re climbing a mountain, pounding those pitons—it’s like a handhold.

Your relationships are like handholds to let yourself get pulled back into life.

The key of it is you have to take the initiative.

If you’re waiting for them to the take the initiative, you don’t understand. You could invite somebody out to lunch that you don’t find interesting, it doesn’t matter, it will affect you anyway, in a positive way. That person represents the whole human race, symbolically.

And the highest tier is your relationship with yourself.

The best way to say it is to get yourself in a relationship with your unconscious, because nobody knows what’s in their unconscious unless they activate it. And one trick about this is writing.

It’s really a magical thing. You enhance your relationship with yourself by writing. Some people say, “Well, write what?” “I’m not interesting.” “I’m not a writer.” It doesn’t matter.

If you start to write, the writing is like a mirror. It reflects what’s going on in your unconscious, and things will come out if you write in journal form that you didn’t know that you knew.

These are the three levels of the life force.

If you’re lost, don’t try to figure it out. Let it go and work on your life force first. It’s about passion. Increasing your life force so you can find out what you’re really passionate about. But step one is to be passionate about connecting to your own life force, and anybody can do that.

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If you enjoyed this excerpt, you can watch Stutz on Netflix (as of the time of this writing). You can also pick up Phil’s book which outlines 5 tools that’ll help you find courage, creativity, and willpower. Info below:

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