“If you have difficulties with your son or daughter, you may have the tendency to say: “You are not my daughter.  My daughter would not behave like that” or “You are not my son.  My son would never do things like that.”  If you look deeply at yourself, you will see that these negative seeds are in you also.  When you were young you made mistakes and you learned from your suffering.  When your child makes mistakes, you need to help him understand so he will not do it again.  When you can see your own weaknesses, you can say: “Who am I not to accept my son?” Your son is you.  With this insight into non-duality, you can reconcile with your children.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh, No Death, No Fear