“Stop wandering about! You aren’t likely to read your own notebooks, or ancient histories, or the anthologies you’ve collected to enjoy in your old age. Get busy with life’s purpose, toss aside empty hopes, get active in your own rescue—if you care for yourself at all—and do it while you can.”
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, The Daily Stoic (Page 387)
“It is not that you must be free from fear. The moment you try to free yourself from fear, you create a resistance against fear. Resistance, in any form, does not end fear. What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it, not how to resist it through courage and so on.”
J. Krishnamurti, via Sunbeams (Page 155)
“Your duty is to be; and not to be this or that.”
Ramana Maharshi, via Sunbeams (Page 155)
“We tend to think of the rational as a higher order, but it is the emotional that marks our lives. One often learns more from ten days of agony than from ten years of contentment.”
Merle Shain, via Sunbeams (Page 155)
“The people you admire, the ones who seem to be able to successfully handle and deal with adversity and difficulty, what do they have in common? Their sense of equilibrium, their orderly discipline. On the one-yard line, in the midst of criticism, after a heartbreaking tragedy, during a stressful period, they keep going. Not because they’re better than you. Not because they’re smarter than you. But because they have learned a little secret. You can take the bite out of any tough situation by bringing a calm mind to it.”
Ryan Holiday, The Daily Stoic (Page 386)
“To bear trials with a calm mind robs misfortune of its strength and burden.”
Seneca, Hercules Oetaeus, via The Daily Stoic (Page 386)
“In all things we should try to make ourselves be as grateful as possible. For gratitude is a good thing for ourselves, in a manner in which justice, commonly held to belong to others, is not. Gratitude pays itself back in large measure.”
Seneca, Moral Letters, via The Daily Stoic (Page 385)
“Everything lasts for a day, the one who remembers and the remembered.”
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, via The Daily Stoic (Page 384)
“It’s a disgrace in this life when the soul surrenders first while the body refuses to.”
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, via The Daily Stoic (Page 383)
“It’s a tricky balance, attempting to find resonance in someone’s story without reducing your suffering to sameness.”
Suleika Jaoaud, Between Two Kingdoms (Page 338)
“Gazing up at the Milky Way, I remember when all I wanted is what I have in this moment. Sitting on the kitchen floor of my old apartment, sicker than I’d ever felt, my heart fractured into ten thousand tiny pieces, I needed to believe that there was a truer, more expansive and fulfilling version of my life out there. I had no interest in existing as a martyr, forever defined by the worst things that had happened to me. I needed to believe that when your life has become a cage, you can loosen the bars and reclaim your freedom. I told myself again and again, until I believed my own words: It is possible for me to alter the course of my becoming.“
Suleika Jaoaud, Between Two Kingdoms (Page 324)
“It’s not at all that we have too short a time to live, but that we squander a great deal of it. Life is long enough, and it’s given in sufficient measure to do many great things if we spend it well. But when it’s poured down the drain of luxury and neglect, when it’s employed to no good end, we’re finally driven to see that it has passed before we even recognized it passing. And so it is—we don’t receive a short life, we make it so.”
Seneca, On the Brevity of Life, The Daily Stoic (Page 382)
“We have not even to risk the adventure alone, for the heroes of all time have gone before us; the labyrinth is thoroughly known: we have only to follow the thread of the hero path. And where we had thought to find an abomination, we shall find a god: where we had thought to slay another, we shall slay ourselves; where we had thought to travel outward, we shall come to the center of our own existence; and where we had thought to be alone, we shall be with all the world.”
Joseph Campbell, via Sunbeams (Page 154)
“In the evening of our lives we shall be examined in love.”
St. John of the Cross, via Sunbeams (Page 154)
“The mind must be given relaxation—it will rise improved and sharper after a good break. Just as rich fields must not be forced—for they will quickly lose their fertility if never given a break—so constant work on the anvil will fracture the force of the mind. But it regains its powers if it is set free and relaxed for a while. Constant work gives rise to a certain kind of dullness and feebleness in the rational soul.”
Seneca, On Tranquility Of Mind, The Daily Stoic (Page 381)
“You can’t guarantee that people won’t hurt or betray you—they will, be it a breakup or something as big and blinding as death. But evading heartbreak is how we miss our people, our purpose. I make a pact with myself and send it off into the desert: May I be awake enough to notice when love appears and bold enough to pursue it without knowing where it will lead.“
Suleika Jaoaud, Between Two Kingdoms (Page 318)
“You can’t force clarity when there is none to be had yet.”
Suleika Jaouad, Between Two Kingdoms (Page 315)
“Most of us are afraid of dying. But sometimes this fear begs the question: To protect what exactly? For a lot of people the answer is: hours of television, gossiping, gorging, wasting potential, reporting to a boring job, and on and on and on. Except, in the strictest sense, is this actually a life? Is this worth gripping so tightly and being afraid of losing? It doesn’t sound like it.”
Ryan Holiday, The Daily Stoic (Page 379)
“It’s easier to quote, to rely on the wise words of others. Especially when the people you’re deferring to are such towering figures! It’s harder (and more intimidating) to venture out on your own and express your own thoughts. But how do you think those wise and true quotes from those towering figures were created in the first place? Your own experiences have value. You have accumulated your own wisdom too. Stake your claim. Put something down for the ages—in words and also in example.”
Ryan Holiday, The Daily Stoic (Page 378)
“The excursion is the same when you go looking for your sorrow as when you go looking for your joy.”
Eudora Welty, via Sunbeams (Page 153)