“Where do you find happiness? Is it out there somewhere waiting to be discovered? Under a rock? Out in the woods? Buried in the desert? Where do you find it? You don’t find happiness. You make it. You put forth effort. You work for it. You take on responsibility. You put yourself out there; you take risk to achieve a worthy goal. And in that pursuit, if you pay attention, if you look around, you will find happiness.”
Jocko Willink, Discipline Equals Freedom (Page 131)
“Ultimately, nobody can manage our attention but ourselves. We can get mad at Netflix or Spotify or the Senate. But ultimately, these systems are loose reflections of our own attention habits shining back at us. Change our attention, change the systems. There’s an old saying that people “vote with their feet.” Well, today you need to vote with your eyeballs and mouse clicks. Don’t watch the next episode of that poorly written piece of garbage that keeps teasing you with characters almost dying. Don’t listen to the next half-assed album with 27 different two-minute tracks. Don’t click on clickbait. Don’t mindlessly scroll through TikTok and YouTube, rewarding people for attention-grabbing stunts. And don’t watch or respond to politicians and pundits who try to blather on and on about pet issues but never actually get anything done.”
Mark Manson, Blog
“What is it stopping you? Didn’t get enough sleep? Are you too tired? Do you not have the right gear? Do you not have enough energy? Do you not have enough money? Do you not have enough time? Is it one of these things that is stopping you? Or is the thing that is stopping you, you?”
Jocko Willink, Discipline Equals Freedom (Page 129)
“The body is the first student of the soul.”
Henry David Thoreau, A Calendar of Wisdom (Page 217) | Read Matt’s Blog on this quote ➜
“If I were to speak truthfully when people asked me how I was doing, I would tell them: ‘It doesn’t matter how I’m doing.’ Because that’s the truth. It doesn’t matter if I feel good or bad or excited or bored or happy or sad. It doesn’t matter. I am going to do what I am supposed to do.”
Jocko Willink, Discipline Equals Freedom (Page 105)
“People ask where discipline comes from. I tell them it comes from within. But there is a level deeper. Discipline comes from The Truth. The Truth is the framework of discipline. And if you lie to yourself, you will not find discipline. If you lie to yourself, you will not be disciplined.”
Jocko Willink, Discipline Equals Freedom (Page 99)
“There is no love in the future. Love can exist only in the present moment. A man who does not manifest love in the present does not love at all.”
Leo Tolstoy, A Calendar of Wisdom (Page 215)
“When the suffering of another creature causes you to feel pain, do not submit to the initial desire to flee from the suffering one, but on the contrary, come closer, as close as you can to him who suffers, and try to help him.”
Leo Tolstoy, A Calendar of Wisdom (Page 214)
“Sure: Life is tough. But it gets a lot easier when you are laughing at it. So. Despite the suffering. In fact: To spite the suffering; to spite the hardships; to spite the challenges—laugh at them all. They can’t stand it when you do. And they all get easier. Yes: Laugh at them all. Laughter wins.”
Jocko Willink, Discipline Equals Freedom (Page 89)
“By picking their own punishments, children become more internally driven to avoid them. By choosing their own rewards, children become more intrinsically motivated to achieve them. Let your kids take a greater role in raising themselves.”
Bruce Feiler, The Secrets of Happy Families
“A recent wave of research shows that children who eat dinner with their families are less likely to drink, smoke, do drugs, get pregnant, commit suicide, and develop eating disorders. Additional research found that children who enjoy family meals have larger vocabularies, better manners, healthier diets, and higher self-esteem.”
Bruce Feiler, The Secrets of Happy Families
“It isn’t that you wake up one day and decide that’s it: I am going to be weak. No. It is a slow incremental process. It chips away at our will—it chips away at our discipline. We sleep in a little later. We miss a workout, then another. We start to eat what we shouldn’t eat and drink what we shouldn’t drink. And, without realizing it—one day, you wake up and you have become something that you never would have allowed. Instead of strong—you are weak. Instead of disciplined—you are disorganized and lost. Instead of moving forward and progressing—you are moving backward and decaying.”
Jocko Willink, Discipline Equals Freedom (Page 72)
“It wasn’t in a war. It wasn’t in a battle. It isn’t in a melee of fire and destruction that most of us succumb to weakness. We are taken apart, slowly. Convinced to take an easier path. Enticed by comfort. Most of us aren’t defeated in one decisive battle. We are defeated one tiny, seemingly insignificant surrender at a time that chips away at who we should really be.”
Jocko Willink, Discipline Equals Freedom (Page 72)
“The clearest and simplest notions are almost always concealed by sophisticated meditations.”
Marcus Tullius Cicero, A Calendar of Wisdom (Page 213)
“Very often the simplest and least educated people can easily and unconsciously understand the meaning of life while the most scholarly people lack this ability, because they have been too educated to understand the simple things that are basic to all people.”
Leo Tolstoy, A Calendar of Wisdom (Page 213)
“Our biggest desire is to live forever. But when we are freed from this body, we will not wish to come back. Is there such a child who, once born, would like to return to the womb of his mother? Is there a man who, freed from prison, would like to return to it? In the same way, a person would not be afraid about the future liberation from his body, if he is not connected too closely with this material life.”
Tables Of The Babids, via A Calendar of Wisdom (Page 212)
“How does ‘good’ apply to the worst of losses: the death of a loved one? It is easy to think that there is nothing ‘good’ in death. But then I remember the people I have lost throughout my life: the memories of them, the experiences, the fun, their unique personalities, and everything they gave me. Not only in their life, but in their death. What their life taught me, and what their death taught me. The mark they have left on me. And I realized, there is good; even in death.”
Jocko Willink, Discipline Equals Freedom (Page 62)
“People always seem to want to know how to read faster. But with few exceptions, all the techniques and tricks of speed reading are a scam. And listening to audiobooks on 2-3X speed? I guess you could learn how to scarf your food down faster, but doesn’t that sort of miss the point of what is supposed to be a pleasurable experience? In all my years as a reader and writer, I’ve only found one way to read faster (and better). And it’s to read a lot.“
Ryan Holiday
“When things are going bad, there’s going to be some good that will come from it. Oh, mission got canceled? Good. We can focus on another one. Didn’t get the new high-speed gear we wanted? Good. We can keep it simple. Didn’t get promoted? Good. More time to get better. Didn’t get funded? Good. We own more of the company. Didn’t get the job you wanted? Good. Go out, gain more experience, and build a better resume. Got injured? Good. Needed a break from training. Got tapped out? Good. It’s better to tap out in training that to tap out on the street. Got beat? Good. We learned. Unexpected problems? Good we have the opportunity to figure out a solution.”
Jocko Willink, Discipline Equals Freedom (Page 59)
“Hesitation is the enemy. Hesitation allows the moment to pass, the opportunity to be lost, the enemy to get the upper hand. Hesitation turns into cowardice. It stops us from moving forward, from taking initiative, from executing what we know we must. Hesitation defeats us. So we must defeat it. To win, all you have to do is overcome that moment: The Waiting. The Hesitation. And to do that, all you have to do is: Go. Move. Take the action. Get out of bed. Get your feet on the ground. Step forward. Do not hesitate. Do not wait. Go forward: And win.”
Jocko Willink, Discipline Equals Freedom (Page 55)