“Higher consciousness is the answer—the only lasting answer—to the dark side of human nature.”
Deepak Chopra, The Shadow Effect (Page 13)
“I love her and she loves me and together we hate each other with a wild hatred born of love.”
Edvard Munch, via Sunbeams (Page 103)
“One is not rich by what one owns, but more by what one is able to do without with dignity.”
Immanuel Kant, via Sunbeams (Page 103)
“We shall not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time.”
T. S. Eliot, via Sunbeams (Page 103)
“I respect the man who knows distinctly what he wishes. The greater part of all the mischief in the world arises from the fact that men do not sufficiently understand their own aims. They have undertaken to build a tower, and spend no more labor on the foundation than would be necessary to erect a hut.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, via Sunbeams (Page 103)
“If you don’t wish to be a hot-head, don’t feed your habit. Try as a first step to remain calm and count the days you haven’t been angry. I used to be angry every day, now every other day, then every third or fourth… if you make it as far as 30 days, thank God! For habit is first weakened and then obliterated. When you can say ‘I didn’t lose my temper today, or the next day, or for three or four months, but kept my cool under provocation,’ you will know you are in better health.”
Epictetus, Discourses, via The Daily Stoic (Page 150)
“Don’t set your mind on things you don’t possess as if they were yours, but count the blessings you actually possess and think how much you would desire them if they weren’t already yours. But watch yourself, that you don’t value these things to the point of being troubled if you should lose them.”
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, The Daily Stoic (Page 149)
“Our ambition should not be to win, but to play with our full effort. Our intention is not to be thanked or recognized, but to help and to do what we think is right. Our focus is not on what happens to us but on how we respond. In this, we will always find contentment and resilience.”
Ryan Holiday, The Daily Stoic (Page 148)
“I believe that the shadow is one of the greatest gifts available to us. Carl Jung called it a ‘sparring partner’; it is the opponent within us that exposes our flaws and sharpens our skills. It is the teacher, the trainer, and the guide that supports us in uncovering our true magnificence. The shadow is not a problem to be solved or an enemy to be conquered but a fertile field to be cultivated. When we dig our hands into its rich soil, we will discover the potent seeds of the people we most desire to be.”
Debbie Ford, The Shadow Effect (Page 5)
“Although ignoring or repressing our dark side is the norm, the sobering truth is that running from the shadow only intensifies its power. Denying it only leads to more pain, suffering, regret, and resignation. If we fail to take responsibility and extract the wisdom that has been hidden beneath the surface of our conscious minds, the shadow will take charge.”
Debbie Ford, The Shadow Effect (Page 2)
“It is one of the great troubles of life that we cannot have any unmixed emotions. There is always something in our enemy that we like, and something in our sweetheart that we dislike.”
William Butler Yeats, via Sunbeams (Page 102)
“Although the world is very full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”
Helen Keller, via Sunbeams (Page 102)
“You can hold back from the suffering of the world, you have free permission to do so, and it is in accordance with your nature, but perhaps this very holding back is the one suffering you could have avoided.”
Franz Kafka, via Sunbeams (Page 102)
“Every habit and capability is confirmed and grows in it corresponding actions, walking by walking, and running by running… therefore, if you want to do something make a habit of it, if you don’t want to do that, don’t, but make a habit of something else instead. The same principle is at work in our state of mind. When you get angry, you’ve not only experienced that evil, but you’ve also reinforced a bad habit, adding fuel to the fire.”
Epictetus, Discourses, The Daily Stoic (Page 147)
“Why do we have access to so much wisdom yet fail to have the strength and courage to act upon our good intentions by making powerful choices? Why do we continue to act out in ways that go against our value system and all that we stand for? […] It is because of our unexamined life, our darker self, our shadow self where our unclaimed power lies hidden. It is here, in this least likely place, that we will find the key to unlock our strength, our happiness, and our ability to live out our dreams.”
Debbie Ford, The Shadow Effect (Page 1)
“In the service of God, you can learn three things from a child, and seen from a thief. From a child you can learn: (1) always to be happy; (2) never to sit idle; and (3) to cry for everything one wants. From a thief you should learn: (1) to work at night; (2) if one cannot gain what one wants in one night to try again the next night; (3) to love one’s co-workers just as thieves love each other; (4) to be willing to risk one’s life even for a little thing; (5) not to attach too much value to things even though one has risked one’s life for them—just as a thief will resell as stolen article for a fraction of its real value; (6) to withstand all kinds of beatings and tortures but to remain what you are; and (7) to believe that your work is worthwhile and not be willing to change it.”
Dov Baer, the Mazid of Mezeritch, via Sunbeams (Page 101)
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
Carl Rogers, via Sunbeams (Page 101) | Read Matt’s Blog on this quote ➜
“Most rudeness, meanness, and cruelty are a mask for deep-seated weakness. Kindness in these situations is only possible for people of great strength.”
Ryan Holiday, The Daily Stoic (Page 146)
“Kindness is invincible but only when it’s sincere, with no hypocrisy or faking. For what can even the most malicious person do if you keep showing kindness and, if given the chance, you gently point out where they went wrong—right as they are trying to harm you?”
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, via The Daily Stoic (Page 146)
“Thinking about interior peace destroys interior peace. The patient who constantly feels his pulse is not getting any better.”
Hubert van Zeller, via Sunbeams (Page 100)