“How to be happy?  Here was a start.  Accept whatever kindnesses people offer you, and repay with what you can.  Let a friend buy you lunch, then do her a solid in return.  You’ll benefit from the favors you receive, but even more from the ones you perform.  Don’t begrudge the people who need you; thank them for letting you help them.  Give up the obsession with self-reliance; it’s a myth, anyway.  None of these comes naturally to me, and even as I write them now, they seem too pat.  But in Helen and Howie I saw them in action, again and again, and here is what I saw: they worked.  They weren’t genius; they were wisdom.” ~ John Leland, Happiness is a Choice You Make (Page 62)