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W. B. Yeats Quote on Looking At Education Like Lighting A Fire (Not Filling A Bucket)

“Education is not the filling of a bucket, but the lighting of a fire.”
W. B. Yeats

Beyond the Quote (26/365)

The mind does not have confines like the walls of a bucket nor does it have a maximum limit like that of a bucket—it is unbounded and is of unlimited potential. The mind needs to be thought of like a fire. Not only is a fire wall-less, topless, and without a maximum limit, but it has an insatiable appetite that will continue consuming for as long as you continue to feed it—like that of the mind. This is an important distinction because when we change the way we view our minds, we change the way we treat our minds (and the minds of those we’re treating).

“When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical.”
Richard Carlson

Beyond the Quote (25/365)

Not only does criticizing and judging other people say something about our own need to be critical, but it acts as a mirror that reveals far more about our own character than it ever does about the person being targeted. In other words, what we’re ACTUALLY doing when we’re talking about someone else is, ironically, talking solely about ourselves. Think about it.

“Practice this. Every action you take today, no matter how little… give it weight. Put some space around it. Start it intentionally, with the intention to be mindful, to inhabit that action fully, to notice with all of your senses the entire moment. When the action is done, don’t just rush to the next one, but take half a second to appreciate what you just experienced. Then move to the next with equal weight and space. If you don’t start treating this next action like it’s just as important as what’s coming later, you might never.”
Leo Babauta

Beyond the Quote (24/365)

So many things in life lose their weight when you learn to redistribute that weight to the present moment. What gives different thoughts, feelings, and situations in your life weight? Your mind. When you feel really drawn down and heavy from tough emotional situations, it’s because your mind is giving those tough emotional thoughts all of its weight.

“…nothing delights the mind so much as fond and loyal friendship. What a blessing it is to have hearts that are ready and willing to receive all your secrets in safety, with whom you are less afraid to share knowledge of something than keep it to yourself, whose conversation soothes your distress, whose advice helps you make up your mind, whose cheerfulness dissolves your sorrow, whose very appearance cheers you up!” ~ Seneca, On the Shortness of Life

“Living doesn’t cost much, but showing off does.” ~ Jeffrey D. Sachs

“Reading is like a software update for your brain. Whenever you learn a new concept or idea, the “software” improves. You download new features and fix old bugs. In this way, reading a good book can give you a new way to view your life experiences. Your past is fixed, but your interpretation of it can change depending on the software you use to analyze it.” ~ James Clear, Blog

Iain Thomas Quote on Trying To Use Self-Love In Response To Pain—Not More Pain

“Why do we hurt ourselves more, when other people hurt us? Why do we beat ourselves up, for feeling beat up? Maybe the lesser pain you cause yourself distracts you from the bigger pain inside. And it’s easy to get stuck in a kind of loop of pain. You’re hurt, so you hurt yourself some more. But the correct response to pain, is self-love. When we’re hurt, we need to take better care of ourselves. Not worse. It can be hard to be conscious in the moment and remember to be kind to ourselves when someone hurts us. But you need to try.”
Iain Thomas, Every Word You Cannot Say (Page 116)

Beyond the Quote (23/365)

What does beating ourselves up look like? It can manifest in destructive self-talk: “Why am I such an idiot?!” “I don’t deserve to be happy.” “Why do I even bother trying? It’s not like anything is going to change.” It can manifest in negative talk and conversation which might include tearing down the people around you, purposefully excluding yourself from social situations because you don’t feel worthy, or even inserting yourself into the role of being a victim, a loser, a trouble-maker, or a target. It might also manifest in physical harm. This is where you might see people punching walls (or other assorted objects), purposefully not taking care of themselves, or even abusing drugs, alcohol, or other substances. Why do any of this at all? Maybe because the pain it causes distracts us from a bigger pain inside.

“How long does it take to build a habit? 21 days? 30 days? 66 days? The honest answer is: forever. Because once you stop doing it, it is no longer a habit. A habit is a lifestyle to be lived, not a finish line to be crossed. Make small, sustainable changes you can stick with.”
James Clear, Blog

Beyond the Quote (22/365)

It’s time to end the debate. It’s time to change your mindset about how habits work and how they are formed. The problem with 21, 30, 66, or even 90 days, is that those numbers create finish lines—and very short distanced ones at that. And once one of those finish lines are crossed, then what?

“Regardless of how much courage it can take to live true to your own path, it will never be as painful as lying on your deathbed with the regret of not having tried.”
Bronnie Ware

Beyond the Quote (21/365)

Bronnie Ware is a palliative nurse who writes about her experiences in sharing people’s last moments alive with them. You can imagine the power and potency of such moments. In many cases, this experience of being with a person who is passing is outsourced to palliative nurses, like Ware, and isn’t something that many people experience first-hand in their lifetimes. Being with somebody who is about to die, however, might teach us more about living than anything we might ever read in a book or hear in a conversation. Until then, hearing what Ware has learned might be one of our next best (and most important) options.

“I choose art and beauty, vague as those terms are, against ugliness and horrors in which we live today. For somebody to look at a flower or listen to music does something to one, has a positive effect, and being surrounded by ugliness and horror does something negative. So I feel my duty not to betray those poets, scientists, saints, singers, troubadours of the past centuries who did everything that humanity would become more beautiful.”
Jonas Mekas, via Happiness is a Choice You Make (Page 45)

Beyond the Quote (20/365)

If it bleeds it leads. If you haven’t heard this expression before, it’s sort of the unannounced, unofficial but predominantly popular strategy for many media outlets that represents the idea of using fear and despondency to keep viewers tuned in, listening, and coming back to them for more. It’s popular because it works and because it works it helps media companies sell more advertisements and improve their bottom-line.

“[Success] is not about beating the other guy. It’s not about having more than the others. It’s about being what you are, and being as good as possible at it, without succumbing to all the things that draw you away from it. It’s about going where you set out to go. About accomplishing the most that you’re capable of in what you choose. That’s it. No more and no less.”
Ryan Holiday, Ego is the Enemy

Beyond the Quote (19/365)

Be what you are—and be as good as possible at it. Identifying your unique strengths, aptitudes, and abilities as a person is the most important first step in discovering your success. Once those characteristics are discovered (or at least a relatively firm idea has been developed), then step two is tripling down on those strengths with as much of your energy and effort as you can afford so that you can accomplish all that you’re capable of accomplishing.

Accept the responsibilities of life.

It’s okay to not fit in.

Felt this.

Know what you need.

“You cannot fix me because I am not broken. And even though everything has changed, I am still more me than I’ve ever been.” ~ Iain Thomas, Every Word You Cannot Say (Page 225)

“We all intend to be perfect but none of us are. If only we could all see each other as we intended to be, instead of as who we are.” ~ Iain Thomas, Every Word You Cannot Say (Page 148)

Martin Luther King Jr. Quote on The Ultimate Measure Of A Man

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.

Beyond the Quote (18/365)

It’s easy to be a good person when everything in life is good. When everything in the house is working beautifully and you can sit on the couch and watch your favorite TV show without interruption? When you go out to dinner and your table is beautifully set, the service is impeccable, and the food is amazing? When you go to work and you get along with everyone, you feel like you’re producing your best work, and your boss is thrilled?

“In the end, we need two things to lead a balanced life – a sense of the world and a sense of ourselves; it’s like breathing in and breathing out. And if you can only get to know the world by stepping out, and losing yourself in experience, you can only get to know the self by stepping back, and finding yourself in contemplation. One without the other leads to a kind of madness.”
Pico Iyer

Beyond the Quote (17/365)

I think at some point in our lives we all fantasize about traveling the world and living the life of a nomad. We could wander from one place to the next and fill our days with spontaneous adventures while meeting new and interesting people. We could explore new cities, take beautiful hikes, have campfires in the woods, listen to new music, and read stories from people who have come before. We can hitchhike in cars, catch cross country trains, sleep in the back of busses, and take red-eye flights. Every day would be different and every day would be filled with a wealth of experience that we could easily get lost in. Sounds pretty great right?

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W. B. Yeats Quote on Looking At Education Like Lighting A Fire (Not Filling A Bucket)

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Richard Carlson Quote on Judging and Criticizing Other People

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Leo Babauta Quote on Practicing Mindfulness By Giving Your Actions Weight