“The very idea of bringing up children is nonsense.  You can help at the most, you cannot ‘bring them up.’ The very idea of building up children is nonsense – not only nonsense, very harmful, immensely harmful.  You cannot build… A child is not a thing, not like a building.  A child is like a tree.  Yes, you can help.  You can prepare soil, you can put in fertilizers, you can water, you can watch whether sun reaches the plant or not – that’s all.  But it is not that you are building up the plant, it is coming up on its own.  You can help, but you cannot bring it up and you cannot build it up.” ~ Osho, Love, Freedom, Alonenss: The Koan of Relationships