“Unless meditation is achieved, love remains a misery.  Once you have learned how to live alone, once you have learned how to enjoy your simple existence, for no reason at all, then there is a possibility of solving the second, more complicated problem of two persons being together.  Only two meditators can live in love – and then love will not be a koan.  But then it will not be a relationship, either, in the sense that you understand it.  It will be simply a state of love, not a state of relationship.” ~ Osho, Love, Freedom, Alonenss: The Koan of Relationships